Anger is a powerful emotion that can take over your life. Anger issues arise when we are repeatedly overcome with uncontrollable or misdirected aggression. While it is perfectly normal to experience anger sometimes, it must be proportional to the situation we are faced with. If you are finding that you become easily angered, frustrated (anger’s “mild” form), or annoyed by small things too often, then you may want to consider learning more about where these motions stem. By targeting anger at its source, we can deal with anger issues permanently.
The Dangers of Anger
Anger is so insidious because it is an emotion that can become redirected very easily. A very simple example of this could be a man getting cut off by someone while driving and then he yells at his wife when he arrives home. Clearly the aggression was meant for the other driver, not the wife. This behavior can likely be traced back to a childhood where discussing emotions was rare or even discouraged. We tend to bottle up or hide our emotions for fear of being bad only to explode moments later.
The Role of Anger as an Emotion
Useful anger points us in the direction of a problem that needs addressing. It’s our body’s mechanism for alerting us to situations that we feel are wrong, unjust, or unfair. All would be well if our story stopped there. The issue with anger depends on what happens next. Either the person perceiving the unfair event feels they have power to enact change or they do not. Feeling powerful and effectual is a good response to injustice and anger and allows us to channel our energy into something good. If we feel powerless and unable to create change, then we feel stuck with no hope but to scream and shout with rage and anger.
Living with Anger
Unless you find a suitable way to deal with your anger issues, you can experience a wide range of negative effects. Your family, co-workers, or friends may not want to be around you if they cannot predict when you will be triggered, for example. Constantly feeling anger and intense frustration can lead to physical health issues such as high blood-pressure, heart attacks, stroke, and depression.
There are many ways to reduce anger that may work for some people. Regular exercise allows you to lower stress hormones such as testosterone which can be heightened when angry. Meditation and similar activities are good ways to find calm and take a step back from the situation that is triggering your negative emotions. However, for many people, these techniques either don’t work or only work temporarily. When this happens, we need to look deeper at the source of the anger.
Deal with and Get Rid of Anger Issues for Good
The secret behind all forms of anger and frustration is just one word – “powerlessness”. Let’s think about it for a second. If you experienced an unfair or incredibly stressful situation, and you had all the power in the world to change it and the power to express yourself fully, would you have any need to feel anger? Probably not. That is why we target these two points to get rid of anger issues:
- Remove stigma of talking about emotions and what we are feeling.
- Reduce the feeling of powerlessness.
Our method allows us to coach you through the stigma and the powerlessness associated with unwanted anger. You will become able to express yourself and become open to new ways of handling situations without succumbing to anger or aggression.
Ready to banish unwanted anger from your life? Get in touch now to set up a free strategy session so we can discuss your goals.